This is the text with which women who no longer suffer for love are going to learn emotional self-defense: we are fed up with sacrificing ourselves, constantly giving in and being complacent. We no longer want blue princes: we want companions with whom to share our life or a piece of it. For this we have to learn to set limits and reach agreements that allow us to feel free and continue being ourselves. Now that we know that there are things that cannot be negotiated (our sexual health, our freedom of movement, our affective network, our right to enjoy our passions and free time, the equitable distribution of domestic tasks and care... .), the romantic myth can no longer subdue or enslave us. We already know what we want, and what we don't want, and now we are going to learn how to use our power to relate to men on an equal footing. In this book, in addition to learning to negotiate from non-violence, and to understand power relations in the couple, you will find many tools and exercises with which you can put utopia into practice. The loving self-criticism method designed by Coral Herrera will help you get to know yourself better and identify everything that you and your partner have to work on in order to enjoy love.